Tests shouldn't be slow when focusing

[TheAngryByrd]

Details

Currently you can focus a test and it seems like other tests are setting up/running when they shouldn't

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[TheAngryByrd]

dotnet run doesnt seem to have this problem so it might a problem be with the dotnet test integration

[TheAngryByrd]

finally figured out why dotnet test seems so slow for expecto

when Yolodev creates a test is calls getLocation https://github.com/YoloDev/YoloDev.Expecto.TestSdk/blob/040bbe714b2316d46fe623eff311fd4af7fa1434/src/YoloDev.Expecto.TestSdk/discovery.fs#L14

which is some crazy reflection-fu in Expecto itself
https://github.com/haf/expecto/blob/63c94332059b40b4bb3a41387eaf64d49e432be8/Expecto/Expecto.Impl.fs#L907-L1025